Five Star's 285th Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Jonathan Safran Foer
This week's Five Star roundup is brought to you by sexual growth under the patriarchy, a mother's love, magic and possibility, the expectation of basic human rights and respect, helping mothers without judgement, the conversation about female fatness on television, and Jonathan Safran Foer:
Why do I write? It's not that I want people to think I am smart, or even that I am a good writer. I write because I want to end my loneliness.
— Jonathan Safran Foer —
My own desire corroded under the pressure; a passionately sex-curious, wildly affectionate child, by my late teens I barely remembered what sexual pleasure felt like, and had to re-learn it from first principles, a precarious and damaged gift that I’ve found and lost over and over again. And I think this is not an unusual story, but only a story about being born a girl.
She recovered from her under-loved childhood by breaking the cycle with her own children, slathering on the love and reducing the expectations. It was a brave thing to do, and it never made it through the camera lens.
Before I was a mother, possibility scared me off. I used to think that imagining possibility was naïve, maybe even stupid. I had dreams and wishes for myself that I kept quiet, that seemed impossible, that I have only voiced since becoming a mother — because as I watch two small children grow, as I see the whole world as one big possibility through their eyes, I can’t help but start to believe that they are right. That there is much more magic out there than we adults usually admit.
They show me each day that life is full of possibility.
That moment has stayed with me my whole life—that cool, controlled response to a threat, the absolute refusal to play the victim. In both my grandmother’s stand against city hall and my mother’s calm dispatch of a home invader, I witnessed the assertion of one’s basic right to live life without being fucked with. And I saw the power of that assertion.
…if you find yourself more miserable than not, more regretful than not–especially if you have children–I hope you find the support you need beyond anonymous postings on an app. There are so many resources.
I imagine this episode of Louie will bother a lot of people. But I’m not upset that Louie broached the topic, just unsure of where he wants us to end up.
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