Five Star Mixtape 380: Five Great Blog Posts and Two Gloria Naylor Quotes
This week's Five Star Mixtape great blog roundup is brought to you by the fact that "pro-life" and "Republican" identities may be at odds with one another, a new union in a hostile country, racist name-calling, unnecessarily gendered language, a simple yet profound intimacy, and Gloria Naylor:
"So you’re thinking of voting for a pro-choice candidate..." by Rachel Held Evans at Rachel Held Evans:
You should vote for Hillary Clinton.
And I’d like to suggest that voting for a pro-choice candidate in this election, or any election, need not overburden your conscience.
Marriage has been a cis straight club for a long time, celebrating relationships between men and women while erasing queer, trans, and non-binary identities. It’s a union that my partner and I didn’t even have legal rights to until one year ago. Even then, it was granted to us under designations like “gay” and “same sex” marriage instead of marriage. And still, there are people and places that don’t recognize my relationship as respectable or serious or true. Marriage is something I’m supposed to see as a gift, but it had to be pried from this country’s hands. Even in the moments when I feel pride in the success of finally being able to marry, it’s dampened by the fact that this recognition is coming from something entrenched in oppression.
It’s different for white people. What insult can bring the entire white community to an immediate awareness of their most vulnerable state? What name can be called out to white males to evoke the powerlessness of seeing wives raped and children sold? There isn’t an answer to these questions and I’m glad. I wouldn’t wish the trauma of chattel slavery on the psyche of any other people group. I only asked the questions to highlight the ineffectiveness of white apologies for singular incidents like the one I experienced. In this case, the apology was clearly insufficient. Regardless, even if actual remorse had been eloquently articulated, I would still be nursing another wound to my soul.
…we don’t have to use gender salutations when dealing with people. We just don’t.
We can be polite without using “Sir,” “ma’am” or “miss,” particularly in situations when it’s impossible to know someone’s gender, like at a drive-through. Just hearing someone’s voice is not enough to know what gender they are. Even cis people can have higher or lower voices than what is typical for their gender.
When she teaches you how to be beautiful, it is a lesson in resilience. When she tells you to buy a dress, she means, “prepare.”
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