Five Star Blog Roundup 429: Five Great Posts and a Tayari Jones Quote

photo credit: Howard County Library System [CC BY-NC-ND 2.0], via Flickr (cropped)

photo credit: Howard County Library System [CC BY-NC-ND 2.0], via Flickr (cropped)

This week's Five Star Blog Roundup is brought to you by learning to give no fucks over 40, emotional oppression, complicity, loving now, Twitter's political landscape, and a Tayari Jones quote:

When it comes to memoir, we want to catch the author in a lie. When we read fiction, we want to catch the author telling the truth.
— Tayari Jones —

Happy reading!

"How To Look Good At Forty And Overthrow Your Government" by Emma at Crappy Living:

Anyway, anyone who has read women’s magazines recently or looked at the internet with their eyes will know that 40 is great and older women are fierce and powerful, and they should also worry a lot more because their husbands are probably going to leave them. It will be ok though, because then they can go on to run their own ethical business wearing a capsule wardrobe made entirely from inspiration. The aim is to undermine the mechanisms of an oppressive patriarchal capitalist state (women’s magazines are so feminist and intersectional now! Go girrrrrl!), but also to look young, but not like you are trying to look young. Never forget that the aim is to look effortlessly chic.  EFFORTLESSLY. For Christ’s sake don’t look like things require effort.

"Crybaby" by Cindy Maddera at Elephant Soap:

Crying is the ultimate weakness. We're expected to cry but we should be ashamed of it. "Whut? You gonna cry like a girl?" is a line they teach all of the bullies. Only sissy babies cry. Thanks to that stigma of weakness, we've been forced to sequester our crying jags to while we're alone in the shower or sitting alone in our cars at the grocery store parking lot. Sometimes while shoving Oreo cookies in our mouths. We must be exhausted from always putting on the 'brave face'.

"Layers of Hurt" by Epiphora at Hey Epiphora:

I wish I could say I stood up to my grandpa. That I had the perfect retort, some sort of sick burn. But instead I chose silence, the safer option. The fight was not worth it. I’m tired of defending my basic right to bodily autonomy. My remaining optimism died with the election. Our truths may be louder, but the opposition feels stronger. And that’s what scares me most.

"Messy Floors, Swept Floors, Celebration, Grief" by Nici Holt Cline at Dig This Chick:

My parents moved here, back to their homeland. I am so grateful to have them near but more to the point: I am so grateful them here, now. I feel like I took things for granted when I was in my teens and twenties. I know that is normal, ego-centric, brain development stuff but I didn’t really get the guts of mortality or spirituality. Impermanence was a concept I didn’t take the time to fully digest. My goals were superficial and often directed by others. I was around 22 or 23 was when I learned I knew nothing after feeling like I knew everything. I was sad because all of my grandparents had passed and I was finally truly ready to receive their wisdom, to make time to be with them above all else. I was too late. But, really, not too late. It’s always the right time to open up into a better version of ourselves. I still learn from my grandparents all the time, through my mom and dad.

"Do We (Mis)Recognise the Political Power of Twitter?" by Naomi Barnes and Huw Davies at LSE Impact Blog:

Twitter is, of course, many things to many people. It is a place people have connected, had ideas developed, and views broadened. However, it is also violent — a place of trolls, masked and unmasked hostility, overt fascism, and even nuclear brinkmanship. Whatever the experience, Twitter is made possible by platform capitalism — a business plan that incentivises outrage to monetise it. But we are told we shouldn’t give up on it just yet because it is also a place where social justice issues such as police shootings, domestic violence, and sexual harassment have been recognised and given a public platform; but so have their deniers. Therefore, whether Twitter holds the potential for social justice is an open and complex question: to explore it we apply two different conceptualisations of misrecognition to the #metoo campaign.

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