The 359th Five Star Mixtape Great Blog Roundup Is Brought to You By Jojo Moyes
This week's great blog roundup is brought to you by vulnerability, distraction, guiding principles, a wonderful companion, racism, learning to take up space, context and significant disabilities, and Jojo Moyes:
I’ve heard people say “we teach what we need to learn.” I’m pretty sure they’re on to something. As a vulnerability researcher, what I’ve learned and now write about uncertainty, risk and “showing up” has profoundly changed my life.
Me: [opening up laptop]
The Internet: You should check me before you start writing.
Me: We’ve been over this. First I write, then I check you. There’s no emergency happening.
T.I.: That you know of.
"Be A Better Bystander: How Third Parties Can Help Targets Of Online Abuse" by Zoë Quinn at Unburnt Witch:
Each case of online abuse is as different as the person who is being targeted, even though we see a ton of commonalities. There is no one size fits all solution. However, I can at least suggest to you some good guiding principles that I’ve seen do the most good with the least harm, as a starting point. This is by no means comprehensive, but it’s a start. I’ll link to other good pieces on practical tips for pushing back against online abuse at the end of the article, too.
If I can’t give you a map, I can at least give you a compass.
I spent most of this morning alternating between feeding him small plates of canned salmon, and picking him up, cuddling him, whispering that I loved him, even though he has been deaf for at least two years. I was putting off digging the grave in the garden, didn’t want to think about how deep, how wide. What is the measure of a cat?
We should not need to mourn so deeply for the end of a work like this. It points out that we recognize its anomalism. It shows that our system is not set up to support that which might feed us best. It points out the embarrassment of riches we systematically and voluntarily deny ourselves.
Our cultural myopathy is blinding us and this is the cost.
Why would I try and make myself smaller? Scrunch up my legs to accommodate someone else’s rudeness. I was so angry at myself for acting this way! And at men, for not even knowing that they were doing it most of the time, and thinking it was okay when they did know.
"Significantly Disabled: A Funny Story" by Christine at Day Sixty-Seven:
You see, in order to advocate well, I've been reading a lot of documents, reports and studies related to educational outcomes for kids with disabilities. Several months ago I was reading something that described a kid very much like the boy who lives in this little green house. The author of this study used the boy like Oliver as a case study for his central thesis. The paper concluded that this child, and others with Significant Disabilities, could also benefit from being included with their non-disabled peers in the general education classroom.
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