Five Star Friday's 232nd Edition Is Brought to You By Junot Diaz

This week's Five Star Friday is brought to you by a failure who can't stop winning, a child of gay parents, the war between shame and empathy, a past that lives in the present, enjoying your own successes, racism and patriarchy, a fight for real democracy, getting sober, discovering where happiness lies, and

Junot Diaz

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photo credit:

Christopher Peterson

A writer is a writer not because she writes well and easily, because she has amazing talent, because everything she does is golden. In my view, a writer is a writer because even when there is no hope, even when nothing you do shows any sign of promise, you keep writing anyway.
     — Junot Diaz, O Magazine, November 2009

Happy Friday!

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Failed Derby Girl

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Eden Riley

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Edenland

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Failed Derby Girl shares the secrets of the mothers of the superheroes, the givers of milk.
There's more to everything, and worlds within worlds.

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The Children of Gays... Exist

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Maggie Wells

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Tales of Sierra Madre

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While all are entitled to their opinions, no one is entitled to say I'm not a person. Or that I’m not a decent person. No one is entitled to lie and make shit up just to suit his fears.

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Public Shaming Is a Better Example of "If it feels good - do it" Than Teen Pregnancy

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Brené Brown

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BreneBrown.com

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Shame diminishes our capacity for empathy.
Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.
You can’t depend on empathetic connection to make a campaign effective, then crush the needed empathy with shame.

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Protect the Airway

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Tanis Miller

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TanisMiller.com

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For years, since my son died suddenly and unexplainably in the middle of the night, I have told anyone and myself I wasn't afraid of dying because I'd already lived through hell.
Turns out, when it's 3:35 am and I can't breathe, I'm damn scared of dying.

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The Crime of Outshining

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Andrea Scher

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Superhero Life

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Sometimes we have to do a big re-wiring job on our brains. We have to first notice those limiting beliefs — the ones that hold us back from being our true selves, our deepest selves + our shiniest selves. And then we have to say, No more! That belief no longer serves me. It no longer keeps me safe, it actually keeps me down.

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Patriarchy and Racism Give Birth to Rape Culture, Not a Drunk Woman or Her Miniskirt

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Sandhu Bhamra

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SandhuBhamra.com

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We keep shifting our framework of understanding rape culture — first to women for being drunk, or skimpily dressed or being out at night, then to a specific culture and if all else fails, to the security system of a nation. I am not saying nations are not responsible for the safety of their women (and men). They need to make tough legislation and more importantly, find ways to stringently implement the law. But we need to expand and correct the framework as well, as there is an inherent danger in understanding rape in the framework of culture and nationality rather than the actual reasons of maintaining a patriarchal order and plain discrimination resulting from racism.

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Marriage Equality: I Can’t Be Switzerland Anymore

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Robin O'Bryant

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Robin's Chicks

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We need to remind ourselves that this issue isn’t being put before the church. It’s being put before the Supreme Court and I, for one, am thankful that our country was founded in a way that how someone else feels or believes, doesn’t affect my right to live my life the way I choose.

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Does This Sobriety Make My Butt Look Big?

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Leslie Marinelli

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In the Powder Room

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From my first glass at age thirteen, alcohol helped me feel more comfortable in my own skin. Being a little numb helped me fit in and feel less awkward and insecure.
But alcoholism is a progressive, insidious disease.

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Is Happiness a Thing

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Hannah Curious

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The Ideal Wife Giveaway

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Like the faithful who believe happiness lies in the divine delivery of some miracle or other, objectifying happiness has made time-traveling automatons out of most of us. Depending on our bank balance, we either live in a past when we had stuff or in a future when we will, negating the present and all the mindfulness, contentment and gratitude that would probably come with it if only we stopped wanting for just a moment.

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