Five Star Friday's 231st Edition Is Brought to You By Kurt Vonnegut

This week's Five Star Friday is brought to you by the love of a father, teaching our sons not to rape, losing a mother, defining women as people and not possessions, a career change, a discussion of what makes up rape culture, American Exceptionalism, and

Kurt Vonnegut

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And so it goes. #indysatw

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davitydave

I want to stay as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can't see from the center.
     — Kurt Vonnegut

Happy Friday!

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My Father’s Horniness

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Dax Shepard

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Don't Try

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On my last trip home, just before Christmas, I took him on his final jailbreak. I threw him in a wheelchair and rolled him through 20 degree weather to his favorite restaurant, where I watched him pick at his waffles and bacon. He couldn't have had more than four bites over the course of an hour. It was a very clear signal to me that the end was near. I took him, for the last time, to his house. I gave him his percocet and sat him in front of the TV. He held the remote in his right hand like a six-shooter, splitting his attention between the TV, the view of the lake through the sliding glass door, and me. It was wonderful. We sat that way for over three hours.

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A Letter to My Sons About Stopping Rape

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Magda Pecsenye

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Ask Moxie

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We have been practicing for this for a long time, for being the ones who help. Remember when we were in the middle of the knife fight on the subway and we got the other mom and kid out of the way? Remember when we helped my friend move away from her scary husband? Remember all those times we took pictures of those freaky dudes staring at the little kids at the playground? We've been practicing to step in and help someone else. You can do it. I have faith in you.

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One Thousand Goodbyes

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Leslie Fandrich

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LeslieFandrich.com

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My kids said goodbye just the same way they did every other day and I didn’t emphasize to them that it was the last one. I know the significance though, and my heart breaks at the thought that they won't get to spend time with her again. I was happy that just before we left, the kids sat quietly in chairs next to her bed and talked with her more calmly than they had all week. Maybe they did know, in [their] own way, after all. In the car, after we left, Chris said, “So, is that it?” and for him, it was.

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I Am Not Your Wife, Sister or Daughter. I Am A Person.

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Anne Thériault

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The Belle Jar

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This device, which Obama has used on more than one occasion, is reductive as hell. It defines women by their relationships to other people, rather than as people themselves. It says that women are only important when they are married to, have given birth to, or have been fathered by other people. It says that women are only important because of who they belong to.

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Why I Left News

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Allyson Bird

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Sticky Valentines

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The flip side to the excitement is the burnout. You're exhausted, and you’re never really "off." You get called out of a sound sleep to drive out to a crime scene and try to talk with surviving relatives. You wake up at 3 a.m. in a cold sweat, realizing you've misspelled a city councilman's name. You spend nights and weekends chipping away at the enterprise stories that you never have time to write on the clock.
Everyone works so hard for so long and for such little compensation. The results are dangerous.

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So You're Tired of Hearing About "Rape Culture"?

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Lauren Nelson

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Rage Against the Random

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Someone asked me today, "What is 'rape culture' anyway? I'm tired of hearing about it."
Yeah, I hear ya. I'm tired of talking about it. But I'm going to keep talking about it because people like you keep asking that question.

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The Retro Husband

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Ruth Fowler

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The World Breaks Everyone

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The fastest growing religious movement in the United States is American Exceptionalism. It's easy to see the appeal. The belief that a country founded on Imperialism, Racism, Slavery and Civil War is actually the greatest democratic country on earth and given Divine Right to be so, that America has absolutely no responsibility to history, and thus has no obligation to address deep inequality, is an alluring one.

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