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Five Star Friday's 228th Edition Is Brought to You By Jack Kerouac

This week's Five Star Friday is brought to you by feeling the hurt for more mindful living, stepping into your light, privilege and prejudice, sexist and racist jokes, queer and feminist pornography, the weight of war, making money at freelance writing, compassion for oneself during times of illness, and

Jack Kerouac

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photo credit: Tom Palumbo

Great things are not accomplished by those who yield to trends and fads and popular opinion.
     — Jack Kerouac

Happy Friday!

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When People Want You To Stay in The Shadows

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The Fierce Blog

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I've come to believe that each person has a spotlight waiting for them. There's a light shining down from God, or the universe, or whatever it is that you believe in, and you just need to step into it. It's your light and no one else's. It's the space in which you do what you're meant to do. In which you are the fullest iteration of you. What's great about your light is that it doesn't overlap with others'. There's no competition. To get into my light, I don't have to crowd anyone else out of theirs. Stepping into mine doesn't affect anyone else's ability to step into theirs.

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History

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Jason Avant

at

DadCentric

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The cold that was slowly killing his fellow Marines saved his life. He lay awake all night, surrounded by his buddies, who offered what comfort they could. Dawn came, and with it warmth. Enough so that the blood holding his jaw to his head thawed, and when it did his jaw fell off and he bled out and died. Killed by the sun. Can you imagine.

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On the Tyranny of Tradition

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Cecily Walker

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Perhaps you've never had to face your biases in person. If that's the case, then you've lived a sheltered and privileged experience. When a person comes to you with pain in their voice and tears in their eyes, it isn't the time to cover your eyes, stick your fingers in your ears, and sing "LA LA LA CAN'T HEAR YOU!".

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What My Kids Have Taught Me About Homophobia

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Cheryl Dumesnil

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Lesbian Family

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...my kids have taught me an equally important skill: acknowledge your feelings. That whole sticks-and-stones-may-break-my-bones schtick is a crock. Words hurt. Discriminatory laws hurt. Being the target of someone's hate hurts, even when you know what they're saying about you isn't true.
Ultimately, ignoring that hurt doesn't defend me against homophobia; it defends me against my own feelings. Last time I checked, "ignore feelings" wasn't on the list of best practices for mindful living.

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Reasons You Don't Like a Sexist or Racist Joke According to the Internet Which Knows Everything

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Mom-101

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Over the past few days, reading the flurry of commentary, chatter, and full-on ranting over Seth MacFarlane's performance at the Oscars, and The Onion tweet heard round the world, I have come to several possible conclusions regarding why you probably don't like a sexist or racist or gay-bashing joke. These are all verbatims or paraphrases from actual statements seen around the internets. So… thank you for schooling me internets! I feel so much wiser now. And funnier!

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Lascivious: For the Love of Porn

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Queerie Bradshaw

at

Vice

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By definition, queer, feminist pornography is the work of activists. Anything that portrays something this far beyond the mainstream has no choice but to be activism. Hairy pussies, big butch women, men with vaginas, women with penises, fat rolls, strap ons, gender play, and all the things that other people fetishize are portrayed in a real way: portrayed by us for us.
We are these people. We are fat, hairy and really fucking gay. We are not a fetish.
I am not a fetish.

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On Getting Paid (And Knowing Your Worth)

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Virginia Sole-Smith

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Medium

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...because I actually have managed to earn a real grown-up salary from freelance writing for the best part of a decade, I also want to talk about how you as the freelance writer can take some control in this crazy, uncontrollable industry and get paid for your work. As easy (and right!) as it is to blame the big corporations, you also need to know your rights and your worth. And take responsibility for your income so you can make it rain for your own self.

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Patient Endurance

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West End Girl

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...that ability to cultivate compassion for myself in what I'm going through, and to stop judging myself for being somehow at fault or not doing enough to get well, is allowing me a little more peace while going through this process that has no clear end or result. It's a work in progress, but I think the more I am able to shift my perception in this direction, the less additional suffering I'll have to go through.

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