This week's Five Star Friday is brought to you by a man who can't shake his father, the truth about solidarity, acting out of blind entitlement, self-advocates and allies, three griefs, and Emmanuel Carrère:
photo source: Dmitry Rozhkov
Everything you think is worth writing. Not necessarily worth keeping, but worth writing.
— "Emmanuel Carrère, The Art of Nonfiction No. 5", interviewd by Susannah Hunnewell, The Paris Review
I know that things were said to me—to my face—that to this day echo and clang around in here like bullets in a barrel. I know that things were said about me, behind my back and behind closed doors, things that I clearly felt and heard even though there was no possible way I could have.
An addict can always smell the conspiracy before the rot sets in.
"Ally" cannot be a label that someone stamps onto you — or, god forbid, that you stamp on to yourself — so you can then go around claiming it as some kind of identity. It's not an identity. It's a practice. It's an active thing that must be done over and over again, in the largest and smallest ways, every day.
Self-advocates and allies speak in many voices; some soft and peaceable, others loud and ferocious. Regardless of volume or style, connecting personhood to autism wins every battle.
It happens all the time that white people claim not to be racist because they didn't intend to be racist; they weren't thinking about that at all.
But there are many situations in which it is precisely your job to think about that.
I'm in a yoga class with my forehead pressed into the mat — this cheesy orange mat with a giant sunset and a backlit tree branch — and my friend Steve Bridges is saying "Hi Gin." A transplanted Texan, Steve says my name, Jen, like I'm booze. And he's talking to me during yoga.
The thing is, Steve is dead.
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