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3 Things I Needed To Hear Today From Brené Brown, Alan Watts, and Henry Rollins

Empathy fuels connection. Sympathy drive disconnection… Empathy is a choice, and it's a vulnerable choice, because in order to connect with you, I have to connect with something in myself that knows that feeling… the truth is, rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection.

From Alan Watts:

…if you're going to say what matter is, you've got to describe it in terms of behaviour. That is to say in terms of form, in terms of pattern. You tell what it does. You describe the smallest shapes of it that you can see — atoms, electrons, protons, mesons, all sorts of sub-nuclear particles — but you never, never arrive at the basic stuff, because there isn't any.
"Stuff" is a word for the world as it looks when our eyes are out of focus, fuzzy… The idea of stuff is that it's undifferentiated as some kind of a goo, and when your eyes are not in sharp focus, everything looks fuzzy. When you get your eyes into focus, you see a form, you see a pattern, and so all that we can talk about is patterns. So, the picture of the world in the most sophisticated physics of today is not formed stuff, potted clay, but pattern, a self-moving, self-designing pattern, a dance, and… our common sense as individuals hasn't yet caught up with this.

From Henry Rollins:

…through saying yes to everything, realizing people like me have to write it three times and other people have to write it once, that I should have to show up early because I'll probably get lost on the way to the location, and that I should probably, watch, shut up and learn rather than shoot my mouth off, I am where I am right now. So, it is basically a story of a lot of luck but taking advantage of opportunity, working really damn hard knowing there was no choice for me but to work really hard.
The repeating factors of my life have been application, discipline, focus, repetition.

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