Five Star Friday's 206th Edition Is Brought to You By Mary Gaitskill

This week's Five Star Friday is brought to you by dealing with loss, living within a binary system, Instagram, facades, 20/20 hindsight, misogyny, medical assistance, deep embarrassment, wage parity, and

Mary Gaitskill

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Mary Gaitskill BBF 2010 Shankbone

photo credit:

David Shankbone

Somebody once said to me if you want to be understood, don't write fiction.
     — Mary Gaitskill

Happy Friday!

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Self-Made Man #16: Trapped In the Right Body

" by

Thomas Page McBee

at

The Rumpus

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Eight years later, I made the mistake of conflating the howl of my body in the mirror with the perspective of the mall cop and the pinched-lip lady. So I watched that first needle heading for my thigh and thought, not a little sadly, that it symbolized a certain compromise. I figured being a man meant a blind faith in the gender taxonomy, a byproduct of hormones and ease of bathroom use, sure as facial hair and increased muscle tone. Because we’re primed to believe in binaries: before and after, say, or the real me versus the me I thought I was. Most of us would rather pass than be seen.

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You and Ben. Ben and You.

" from

Rockstar Ronan

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Words failed me today with Ben's mom. There are no words that could ever be good enough. I'm so sorry was all I could really do. If I had to tell her some things, it would be this.

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FAQ: What does an Instagram LIKE Mean?

" from

Deb Rox

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I know it's been rough for you lately but my "Likes" seriously are elixer, medicine and fairy dust combined, so here's a Like to cheer you!

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Don't We All Look Nice on Our Blogs?

" from

Surrender, Dorothy

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We're all just totally treading water.
But don't we all look nice on our blogs?

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You Say Goodbye, I Say Hello

" from

Princess Nebraska

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Every morning, on my way home from Kindergarten, I drive past myself.
And I swear sometimes it's so real, these two versions of me layered over each other, intersecting, that it’s like I'm watching a movie, the me from back then, sitting in the damp grass, nursing a baby, and worrying and waiting to go get Eli, crossed with the me of now, speeding down the dappled sunlit tree covered street, and the music dims and I glance back at her and slow down just a little, and then I flutter my fingers and wave at her as I drive on by.

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Everyday Sexism

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Evil Gal Productions

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two weeks ago, during my last encounter with Fucking Egregious Sexism, this is what finally dawned on me: while laughter can act as a defense shield, it also tells the offender – whether partner or stranger — that what he's saying or doing can't be that big a deal, if the woman he's saying or doing those things to acts like it's funny.
Even if we're only laughing out of self-preservation.
And this is where my own culpability comes in.

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Dear Mitt Romney, Here’s My 47% Story

" from

The Chronicles of Munchkin Land

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I will vote for a President who doesn't make me feel guilty for signing up for Medical Assistance when I needed it. I will vote for a President who doesn't villainize me for a health condition that we didn't know about, that landed me flat on my back and in need of help from others. I will vote for a President who doesn’t make me out to be the bad guy for accepting that help. I will vote for a President who doesn't throw me under the bus in the name of campaigning.

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Never Put a Note Under the Door

" from

Simply She Goes

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"They picked up the note, and, oh Jesus, started reading it out loud. And laughing. It was horrible! That's when we ran and crouched in the corner."
"You what? You hid in the corner? Why? Oh my God, you two were such dorks! Humiliated dorks." Brian was now bent over, cracking up.

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4 Ways to Close Your Pay Gap

" from

Food On Our Table

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...families are taking home $10,000 less per year because of disparities in pay for women. This doesn't include the cumulative effect that lower wages has when it comes to investment in 401Ks, personal savings, future raises, bonuses and Social Security payments, if we are lucky to have such a thing when we retire.
What would your family do with an additional $10,000 each year?

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