Five Star Friday's 193rd Edition Is Brought to You By Pema Chödrön

This week's Five Star Friday is brought to you by overscheduling and training our children, supporting new mothers, Father's Day, fighting self-doubt, the importance of educating boys about sexuality, anxiety and motherhood, the celebration of a little girl's first birthday, accepting Asperger's and Autism, a diagnosis of Asperger's in adulthood, Apple and Siri, and

Pema Chödrön

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Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.
     — Pema Chödrön

Happy Friday!

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Children of Empire

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Melospiza

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It's not exactly bubblegum and grease. But some of the kids, my own included, seem to be biding their time with this training stuff until they can get back to what they really want to do and not be bothered. And that, whatever it is, is where their soul lies. Is it bubblegum, in their bedrooms with the doors half closed and the lights dimmed? Maybe. I can't really see in there. All I can see into is my own confused soul, which longs with a fierce intensity for a summer of long lazy days spent poking through the woods or puttering around the house and then turns around and signs up for eighteen different educational and sporting activities in the suburbs. Maybe that's what we are: confused souls, all of us, wanting one thing and then rushing out and buying another.

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Buy a Friend a Latte Day

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Is There Any Mommy Out There

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When you stand where I am, when the pregnancies are over and the years start to blur past at an alarming pace, when the fortieth birthdays come one after another, when PTAs appear on the scene and puberty looms a few grades away, and school curriculum and social scenes and daunting activity schedules force you to acknowledge that eighteen is ten short years away, and that in some ways, babies are the easy part, I want you to have the kind of friends beside you that I have.
The right friends can turn vomit into lattes, sweetheart, and that is what I want for you.

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Father's Day

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Daddy Doin' Work

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So what does Father's Day mean to me? It's a reminder that on that cold rainy night in December 2009 I didn't think I'd ever be a father. It's a reminder that I was supposed to hold my son or daughter in my arms on Father's Day 2010 — instead I spent time alone in tears clutching the baby's ultrasound picture. It's a reminder that you don't know how good you have it until "it" is taken away from you. It's a reminder that you never know how strong you can be until being strong is your only option. It's a reminder to never miss an opportunity to tell the people in your life that you love them.

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Start With Me (and You Start with You)

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A Lot of Loves

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What would her future 60-year-old self say if she could come back in time and talk about that dress? I bet that the 60-year-old would tell the 40-year-old that the time is now for that dress. If you love that dress, get into it. Wear it. Revel in the moment that is now and know you look good.

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What Happens When We Don’t Teach Our Boys About Sex

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Jayson Gaddis

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The Good Men Project

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Like it or not, the state of male sexuality in this culture (and probably the world) is that of a sick, neglected, and deeply abandoned child, and we can see the wake of it everywhere in our lives. The way boys treat girls, the way men treat women. The way boys treat boys. The bullying and shame, coercion, and intimidation to be a certain way sexually. The gay jokes, the "small penis" jokes, the "pussy" jokes, the rape, misogyny, misandry, the violence, Matthew Shepard, Penn State, The Catholic Church, and the shame and self-hatred toward our own bodies.
All taught by who? Boys.
That's right. We adults have put boys in charge of teaching other boys about the most sacred parts of their bodies. Boys are teaching other boys about sexuality in this culture. And because adults are unable or unwilling to step up, this is the mess we are in.

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Overwhelmed By Motherhood: The Anatomy of An Anxiety Attack

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Katherine Stone

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Postpartum Progress

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Now, I’m awaiting the moment when I go back to feeling like the real me. It might be later today. If not, it will most certainly be tomorrow. I’ll go back to feeling strong and fierce and as though the ground I’m standing on is not buckling. This, right now, is not me. This thing is the thing that tries to deter me. I will allow it a few minutes to do that, but then I will go back to me.
I am a good mother. I am making beautiful music.

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Happy Birthday, Elsie Jane

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The Extraordinary Ordinary

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Love stays present, that's what it does. It says, I'm coming with! even when your idea is totally crazy. I want you to know that we will be behind you with It, always. No matter your choices or roads or mistakes or triumphs. Your first year has done something inside us that needed doing, with the splitting open of birth and then healing and now we’re better at loving, because of you.

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To "I Wish I Didn't Have Asperger's" — An Open Letter from Forgotten

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Fairy Tale Forgotten

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I know you're struggling right now. I know you're looking for answers, maybe even a cure. I make this request of you, please don't ever wish away a part of yourself. Your Asperger's makes you unique. It makes you beautiful. It makes you see the world differently than everyone else on the planet. You don't think like others so you'll never be "just another fish in the pond". Your thoughts are valuable. Your point of view is priceless. You are heard.

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Aspie Like Me: A Diagnosis Story

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Stimeyland

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Then I had Jack and he was different too. And I started to learn about autism. When I would read books about autism, I would see myself in them. I make notes in margins of books when there is something I want to remember and in these books about autism I would sometimes write "Jack" with an arrow pointing to a passage and I would sometimes write "me" instead.
I would read things written by adult autistic individuals and I would recognize myself.

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Assorted Interpretations of the Siri Series

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Deb Rox

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Apple has a lot of money. I mean A LOT of money. And time to toy with us like a cat bats a mouse. Like Malkovich chasing Linguiça on a plate. And, they have me. Still, I will buy. I will always buy. Requited or not.

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