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Five Star Friday's 107th Edition Is Brought to by Chinua Achebe

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Stories serve the purpose of consolidating whatever gains people or their leaders have made or imagine they have made in their existing journey through the world.
— Chinua Achebe

This Five Star Friday roundup is brought to you by feeling beautiful, a tent, real life motherhood, racism, parenting and sexuality, cursing, indeterminacy and chance, sarcastic thankfulness, the stress of motherhood, preparation for the final eventuality, a mouse, ex-boyfriends, rebuilding, an anniversary, family privacy and blogging, babies at the zoo, dating men, muddling through, love, weight, and American exceptionalism.

Please feel free to give us urls to your own good weblog writing in the comments!

Happy Friday!

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Reflection

" from

Raising Zoeyjane

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I skipped out of that salon with joy and confidence. Some random guy bought my tea five minutes later at Starbucks and attempted to chat me up. The bangs and huge black sunglasses combined so well, I felt like I looked like a star.
Until I didn’t anymore. And then I was back to seeing luggage and feeling like it just wasn’t worth trying. Fuck, why put on makeup, if the concealer only covers the colour of the bags, not removes them; why spend the time to apply and perfectly blend eyeshadow, when it’ll just cake in the creases within a few hours. Why fucking bother?

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Dear North Trail Premier Tent

" from

The Eagle & Child

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The Best I Can

" from

Sweetney

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How Do They Get to Be That Way?

" from

Roger Ebert's Journal

:

I am not that American child. I am an American who was born before the schools were integrated in the South. I am an Midwesterner who went with his mother on a trip to Washington, D.C., and my cousin's company driver showed us the sights, but when we stopped for lunch at Howard Johnson's he explained he couldn't go inside because they didn't serve colored people. "But you're with us!" I said. "I know," he said, smiling over my head at my mother, "but they don't know who you are." Inside, I asked my mother why they wouldn't serve him. "They have their own nice places to eat," she said. I don't believe she was particularly upset on his behalf.

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How Do You Feel About Coconut and Snort's Sexuality?

" from

existere (latin): to stand out, to emerge.

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F*ck!

" from

Ladybugs Picnic

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Whatever Comes Up

" from

Keri Smith

:

what I learned about traveling from my husband is that even if you went on an adventure and forgot all of your stuff (or had some crazy, unexpected experiences), you would be okay. you would deal with it all in the moment and come up with new and creative ways to exist. human beings are beautiful in this way. we can adapt to whatever arises, and we like to think we can control everything ahead of time. it is only an illusion, but one we become very addicted to. we become very attached to things as our way of making us feel like ourselves.

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Saying Thank You the Bitch Way

" from

The Travel Mommy

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The Weight of It All

" from

The Norwindians

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Final Wishes

" from

Undomestic Diva

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We lie in bed in the darkness, a slight breeze swaying the wooden blinds that clap against the window. The TV, with its familiar blue glow, hums a comforting white noise that normally lulls us to sleep each night. But tonight, neither of us have drifted off to sleep yet, our minds wandering - probably to very different places - both trying to trick our brains into turning off and resting; to fall into sleep and give way to dreams.
"What would you do with my stuff if I died?" He breaks the semi-silence.

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AND THEN!

" from

Amalah

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Fight or Flight

" from

Ministry So Fabulous!

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Wise Foolishness

" from

Breed 'Em and Weep

:

I am darkly amused by people who argue that those in suicidal states of mind are selfish. Most who take their own lives cannot imagine, in that precarious moment, that they will ever have anything to give again. When all they want to do is to be able to give, again. To the people that they love, to the people that they are certain they are causing only misery.
Unbearable loss and utter uselessness were all I knew in that sliver of time.
Someone spotted me. That person wrapped a blanket around my shoulders. And I walked (was walked?) away from the river, into a warm home that was not mine. To begin again.

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Anniversary Weekend!

" from

Finslippy

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Is Being Family Enough?

" from

Just Another Day In Paradise

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Where Do Babies Come From?

" from

Snotty McSnotterson

:

There’s not enough room on a pedestrian zoo path for me and a family-sized sport-utility stroller some baby apparently needs for his latte, cell phone, iPod, water bottle, purse, book, digital camera, sunglasses, snacks, sweatshirt, umbrella, and pacifier. Sure, I can just traipse alongside you in the bushes, trampling on hearty African trees and tripping over benches while you re-stock and prepare that house-on-wheels for what must be Armageddon.

Two from

aagblog.com

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Baffled

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and

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No Help

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Without Deep Reflection One Knows From Daily Life That One Exists for Other People

" from

Spin Me I Pulsate

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My unease with women may stretch back to the fact that I always feel like a giant among the munchkins, and I am the problem. Rooms full of svelte and tanned, bellies that lie flat, arms that rarely jiggle. Pants that stay put.
When the world, or at least the one presented to you, is a consumptive tea party of flounce and vanity, of slimness and restraint, how does a girl look around her if it’s her ass that doesn’t fit in the party chair?

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Good Work If You Can Get It

" from

A Lifetime of Dubious Success

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American Exceptionalism and You

" by

s.e. smith

at

Feministe

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